THE WORLD OF MARRIAGE

wedding The marriage ceremony: dextrarum iunctio

Marriage was the prize for which the culture prepared every daughter of citizen parents from birth; it was the rite of maturation for a young female, enabling her as bride, wife, and mother to contribute to the state by producing new citizens. Early on Rome, whose founding myths preserved the stories of the birth out of wedlock of its first king Romulus and the Sabine marriage of its first matronae, set legal protections around Roman citizen marriage for the citizen body (see XII Tables, Table XI), colonies, and allies, for whom ius conubium was a privilege of association granted by treaty. Marriage was not possible for slaves, who were the property of their masters and so could not produce citizens (cf. this freed family). There were several forms of legal marriage, but by the late Republic the most popular was without manus, which offered advantages to women. In this World the absence of women's voices is felt most keenly, for marriage was a central moment in a woman's life, usually negotiated by the parents of the couple, and equaled only by the birth of her children, while for her husband it was yet another arena in which he gave service to the state and perhaps advanced his social and economic status. These arrangements of convenience did not, however, preclude a loving and respectful relationship, as the marriage of Caesar's daughter Julia to Pompey the Great evidences. The marriage ceremony itself was elective and primarily a social occasion whose elaboration depended on the rank and resources of the participating families and whose core was the dextrarum iunctio and the witnessed signing of the marriage contract, which, for the elite, set terms of agreement on the dowry, divorce, and widowhood. While marriage was intended to be a lifelong bond and often was, divorce (divortium) was an option for both parties, involving the return of a woman to her birth family with her dowry but without her children, who remained with their father. This World is conveyed in great part by mute statuary and conventional sentiments on tombstones, in encomia which honor women who conformed to expectations, and in comedy and satire which mock the stereotype of the wife. For details of forms and ceremony, see matrimonium and Treggiari (1991) in the Bibliography; see also Images of Marriage below.

Text-Commentaries Additional Readings
Cornelius Tacitus, Annales XV.63-4: Paulina See the Latin reader The Worlds of Roman Women for the following texts:
Titus Livius, Ab Urbe Condita XXX.12, 15: Sophonisba M. Valerius Martialis, Epigrammata 10.35: Calenus' Sulpicia (see Epigrammata X.38)
Marcus Valerius Martial, Epigrammata X.38: Sulpicia ILS 8393, Funerary Inscription Laudatio Turiae (excerpts)
Marcus Valerius Martial, Epigrammata IV.13: Claudia Peregrina ILS 1221a, b, Funerary Inscription: Aurelia Philematium
C. Plinius Caecilius Secundus (minor), Panegyricus 83: Empress Plotina ILS 8403, Funerary Inscription: Claudia
Cornelius Tacitus, Annales XI.12: Messalina Cornelius Tacitus, Agricola 6.1, 3: Domitia Decidiana
Marcus Annaeus Lucanus, De Bello Civili V.762-790: Cornelia Valerius Maximus, Facta et Dicta Memorabilia 6.7: three loyal wives
  CIL 6.6593, Funerary Inscription: carissima coniunx
  Valerius Maximus, Facta et Dicta Memorabilia 4.6.5: Porcia

Funerary Inscriptions

Valerius Maximus, Facta et Dicta Memorabilia 4.3.3: Antonia minor
Julia Capriola C. Plinius Caecilius Secundus (minor), Epistulae 7.5: Calpurnia
Claudia Piste M. Valerius Martialis, Epigrammata 11.53: Claudia Rufina (also Epigrammata 4.13)
Furia Spes T. Maccius Plautus, Menaechmi 602-652: the long-suffering matrona
Nothi Coniunx See De Feminis Romanis at Diotima for the following on-line Latin texts:
  C. Plinius Caecilius Secundus (minor), Epistulae 3.16: Arria
  C. Plinius Caecilius Secundus (minor), Epistulae 7.5: Calpurnia

IMAGES of MARRIAGE

Marriage Ceremony

Dextrarum Iunctio

Coniuges

All images are courtesy of the VRoma Project's Image Archive.